Counselor Joy has advised people to stay away from finding love on the various social media platforms.
According to her, dating a man or woman through social media because just basing on physical beauty and not diving deep into their lives to examine their character can be very dangerous. She added that most people looking for love on the internet have mastered the art of seduction and will do everything to win love but have questionable characters.
“It is okay to look for someone out there but when you go there, try to make friends, try to look for the truth as much as possible. Don’t just because he has eight packs or six-packs, or she looks hot and all of that”, she indicated.
according to her, at first sight, one will not see the effects of such a relationship since he/she will be blinded by the way the other will treat him or her. she compared that to the feeling one gets when smoking for the first time.
“I read a research paper last year. The feeling that you get when somebody makes you feel good and the person gets in your head and your heart, and your entire body wants the person; You see, you can actually equate that to the feeling you get when you take cocaine or something for the first time. The thing is you want more, see that high feeling that you have never got before, that is how it is.”
She also touched on what causes people to turn to social media instead of finding love around. according to her, people especially ladies who are often teased at for either being fat or not that beautiful are those who mostly turn to social media for love.
“I met a lady who had had a toxic relationship in the past-she met a guy online and she needed someone to care for her; this guy told this lady everything she was longing to hear. When she had this broken heart, there was no one at home to hug to, she was sort of looking for some sort of validation out there, and she got it. In the end, she was sending this guy money, she knew she was in some sort of toxic relationship but she wasn’t willing to let it go until someone introduced us”, the Counselor disclosed.